“You are a home wrecker.”
My husband said dispassionately to me.
He was kidding of course. It was something he said sometimes when joking with me about my chosen profession.
“I am not a home wrecker.”
I replied, somewhat more tersely than usual.
“The homes come pre-wrecked. My job is to help fix things — to try to sort things out into two separate homes. I try to make things better.”
My husband smirked. It was an expression I often saw on his face right before he was about to say something particularly amusing.
“So you lift and separate?”
I considered the notion. I disliked the negative connotation that instantly sprang to mind regarding what such an analogy meant regarding my clients’ role in the matter. Otherwise the catchphrase was apt. As a family law attorney I do try to help people separate in a way that is positive. And even after practicing more than a decade I still idealistically hope that my work for them helps lift them out of a dark place. Many say that divorce is as traumatic as a death. It is my observation that this is true. My clients grieve the loss of their marriage, and they feel the pain of it as keenly as if a loved one had been struck down.
So, perhaps it is naïve or fanciful… but I did not mind my hubby’s metaphor. After all, I not only try to lift and separate, but support as well.